“The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way.”
― Robert Kiyosaki
In a previous post, I touched on the subject of accepting that no one is perfect. This post will address “How to Overcome Disappointment” or that let-down feeling that comes when things don’t go as expected.
According to Webster, disappointment is defined as “the feeling of unhappiness from the failure of something hoped for or expected to happen” or “when someone or something fails to satisfy our hopes or expectations.”
In other words, when we set ourselves up to hope for something and when that hope isn’t met, we experience disappointment. We feel let down or betrayed.
Unfortunately, this happens quite frequently when trying to find a way to earn money online or make money at home.
If you have experienced a major letdown, you are probably like most people, wondering, “how to overcome disappointment.”
Picking yourself up again is, unfortunately, a lot easier said than done. I know from personal experience that it’s hard to get back that feeling of enthusiasm and excitement that you had when you first started looking for ways to earn money from home.
It doesn’t take any special talent or effort to throw in the towel and say, “Forget it!”
But it takes an enormous amount of effort to overcome disappointment, get back up and try again. Especially when you have put your best efforts forth, gave it your all and/or lost your hard earned money on some worthless money making opportunity.
It’s a fact of life, disappointment is not fun. It’s actually much easier to do nothing than to deal with additional disappointment.
How Do You Overcome Disappointment, Bounce Back and Move Forward to Make Your Dream a Reality?
I know that this is easier said than done but—
The key is not to give up! This is the thing. Life is life. An occasional disappointment is a part of everyday life. We will never get to the place where we won’t have to face disappointments. It’s how you choose to handle the disappointments that determines your successes in life.
You can choose the positive approach to overcome the disappointment and get better. Or you can choose the negative approach, and be bitter.
It’s completely up to you!
Take a minute and think about the people who are succeeding, whether it be earning money online, working from home or pursuing their passion. With persistence, patience and perseverance you too can achieve your dreams.
If they can do it then so can you!
Ask yourself this question, do you want to look back a year from now smarter, wiser and one step closer to achieving your dreams or stuck in the same space day dreaming, wondering “how can I overcome being let down?”
Steps To Overcome Letdown
If your choice is to move forward and get better, then I would like to share with you the process I have learned to use to bounce back from a letdown:
Step 1 Vent – Acknowledge the disappointment. Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling and then let it out. Write it down, talk to a friend, kick the wall, cry, throw rocks, scream. (Trust me, this will help you to feel better). Do whatever you need to do to get it out of your system, so you can move forward.
Step 2 Reflect Back – Take some time to sit and really look at the situation for what it is. Things usually are not as bad as they seem at first. Look at the disappointment as a whole and ask yourself these questions:
- Was the disappointment as big as you thought?
- Were your expectation realistic?
- Did you expect too much?
- What specifically caused the disappointment?
Asking yourself these questions will give you a new perspective and bring you back to reality.
Step 3 Regroup – One good thing about experiencing disappointment, is that sometimes it may be a sign that you need to reassess your priorities and goals. Take the time to refocus your energies on your new goals and make adjustments as needed.
Step 4 Write Down Your Goals – This is a very important and powerful step. Writing down your goals is the first step to making them a reality. It also helps to:
- Free up room in your mind
- Take your thinking to the next level
- Eliminate distractions
- Keep you focused
Keep the paper in front of you, put copies on your phone, on your laptop or pc. Tape copies on the wall in your bedroom or your bathroom mirror. Keep it somewhere where you will see it constantly and be reminded of what you want to achieve. A really good place would be to hang it on your rear view mirror in your car.
Step 5 Build Yourself Up – In some cases, disappointment can make you feel like an absolute failure. You may find yourself thinking, “why do these things keep happening to me,” or “working from home is too good to be true.”
Do let yourself succumb to this thinking. Don’t allow yourself to give in to these negative thoughts! You can become your own biggest motivator!
What you say to yourself is more important than anything anyone else says to you. Build yourself back up by using self-talk.
Encourage yourself by saying things like, “I can accomplish my goals. I can make it. I will achieve my dream of making money from home!”
Step 6 Try Again – Don’t be afraid to try again. Take baby steps and move forward as you search for ways to make your dream of working from home a reality. Create a plan B just in case things don’t work out as expected.
Prior to pursuing your next opportunity, take the time to do some research. Do a quick check on forums, review sites, etc., to screen out any worthless opportunities.
Disappointment is a part of life. Things are not always going to go as we expect. If we approach it positively, we can defeat disappointment and use the experience to help us to grow and come out stronger on the other side.
There a hundreds of thousands of legitimate work from home opportunities. You could be one opportunity away from making your dream a reality if you don’t quit.
Remember, opportunities await those that take action.
For an effective self-help method to get past disappointment, you may want to check out: “Zapp Procrastination.” Inside, you will find very specific and detailed instructions that you can use to overcome disappointment quickly.